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I think something is wrong
Signs your child may be experiencing bullying and how to begin a calm, sensitive conversation.
ALONE IN SILENCE
The Hidden Reality of Childhood Bullying
A book for parents who know that something has changed in their child,
even when their child cannot find the words to explain it.
even when their child cannot find the words to explain it.
ABOUT THE BOOK
Understand.
Act. Protect.
Alone in Silence uncovers the hidden reality of childhood bullying, its lasting emotional impact and the practical steps parents can take when something in their child begins to change.
Research-informed and written with compassion, this book gives parents the clarity to recognise warning signs, begin difficult conversations, work with schools and advocate for the support their child needs.
When a child cannot tell you what is happening, their behaviour may tell you first.
What readers will find
The behavioural and physical signs of bullying
How to begin the first conversation
What to document and why it matters
How to work with or challenge a school
When professional support may be needed
How bullying affects parents and siblings
What recovery and restored safety can look like
AUTHOR
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Dr Aileen O’Reilly
Dr Aileen O’Reilly is an educator, researcher, parent and advocate dedicated to helping children feel understood, protected and supported.
Through her research and professional experience, she explores the hidden realities of childhood bullying and the challenges parents face when they sense something has changed but struggle to understand why.
Her work provides compassionate, practical guidance to help families recognise warning signs, start meaningful conversations and confidently support children through difficult experiences.
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Children do not always have the words to explain what they feel. Sometimes their behaviour tells the story first.
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Research Led
Evidence-based insight shaped by experience.
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Parent Focused
Helping families navigate uncertainty.
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Child First
Built around trust and emotional safety.
Resources for Parents
You are not alone. Help and guidance are here.
Clear, compassionate guidance to help you recognise concerns, support your child and take the right next step.
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My child has disclosed bullying
Questions to ask, what to record and how to respond without overwhelming your child.
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The school is not responding
Document concerns, prepare for meetings and understand the next steps available to you.
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My child is struggling emotionally
Learn when additional support may be needed and where to seek appropriate professional help.
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Our family is being affected
Guidance for parents and siblings who are managing the wider emotional impact of bullying.
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Helpful guides and templates
Access practical templates, useful checklists and clear information created for parents.
SPEAKING & EVENTS
Conversations That
Create Change.
Dr Aileen O’Reilly brings research, compassion and practical insight to conversations about bullying, child advocacy and safer school communities.
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Parents
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Schools
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Advocacy
TALKS · WORKSHOPS · SCHOOL EVENTS
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When children struggle to speak, adults must learn to listen.
ALONE IN SILENCE
Questions Parents
Often Ask.
Practical guidance for recognising concerns, opening conversations and supporting children with greater clarity and confidence.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
A clear starting point for some of the questions parents may face.
Notice changes in behaviour, mood, friendships, confidence or school routines. Sometimes behaviour communicates what a child is not yet able to explain.
Avoid demanding immediate answers. Create calm opportunities to talk, reassure them that you are available and focus first on listening.
If concerns persist, your child discloses bullying or their distress appears connected to school, begin documenting what you know and arrange a conversation with the appropriate staff.
Keep clear records, request responses in writing and continue raising concerns through the school's appropriate procedures when necessary.
The book is primarily parent-focused, while its themes may also be useful to educators, school leaders and professionals who support children and families.
DESIGN & DEVELOPED BY:
ireland publishing house
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